Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Remembering the Little Things




My new friend told me that when I named 3 of the 4 kpop groups she was currently going head over heels over. In all honesty, it wasn’t that difficult. We follow each other on tumblr and I can see everything that she reblogs, read her spazz in the tags and everything. It’s not difficult to remember.

In any sort of relationship, I think that it’s important to show the other parties that you care about what they’re telling you. This is how the relationship is built. When somebody is telling you something - be it about their mundane daily routine or their hobbies - they’re telling you information about themselves and quite frankly, they expect them to be remembered on the least bit. I feel that it’s important to remember because it shows that you’re putting in an effort in the relationship and it’s not entirely one sided.

I’ve had a friend who has asked me over and over on separate occasion how old I was. She then shrugs it off with “oh..you know..I have bad memory”. It was ok the first two times but after that it gets a bit annoying. I’m not sure if she was doing it on purpose because “it’s her thing to be bad at remembering” or she simply doesn’t remembers. Wouldn’t you feel bad if somebody just wouldn’t remember something simple that you’ve told them for about four to five times, maybe. It feels really bad because you’ll feel like nobody is paying attention to what you’re saying and that what you’re saying doesn’t matter to them. And that feeling sucks.

The act of remembering little details goes a long way. It makes the other party feels appreciated and it helps with your relationship. It doesn’t hurt to try and remember. It just takes that little bit of effort.